Saturday, June 16, 2018

Marriage






Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4:12







My husband and I are celebrating seven years of marriage this coming Monday! These past seven years have flown by, and have blessed us more than we could have ever imagined. We have a very short timeline of when we met, when we got engaged, when we married, and when we had our first baby. Many people had doubts, but we knew that our commitment to one another was nothing to take lightly. We had a shotgun wedding, as some would tag us as, but the amount of love and support that we received from our friends and family was simply incredible. Now, seven years later, three miracle babies, three pregnancy losses, a home purchase, several family trips, the loss of my grandpa, an unbelievable amount of family drama that showed us that we cleave and settle into one another, instead of letting it tear us apart, and everything in between, has shaped the best and worst seven years of my life. There is absolutely no other person that I would choose to stand by my side during these best and worst moments. To experience such highs and lows with one person is truly something to be appreciative of, and while I am an incredibly independent woman, and possess a "do it myself" attitude, Taylor is my crutch, he is my newfound rock since losing my grandpa, and he is my constant. He doesn't move, and he is steadfast in his unconditional love to me and our girls. Taylor's character is the black sheep of where he was raised and grew up. He teaches me so many things that I need in my life, and we are then able to pass those lessons on to our girls. Our marriage has been pretty blissful, with the inevitable arguments and disagreements. The combination of these ups and downs in life has led me to understand that if there is one thing that I have learned in our past seven years, it is this: Marriage is not perfect. Marriage is messy and real, and when you get in the thick of it, love is a choice, not a feeling. Sure, you first fall in love while dating, but after years of marriage, the feeling of being in love can definitely fade at times, and this is when love becomes a choice! No marriage would ever survive if couples relied on the need to feel in love at all times. The daily reminders of commitment to one another is so important. Here is an analogy that I have often thought about... You would never find a (sane) parent leave their child behind because they had too many tantrums over the course of several months. The bond between a parent and their child is like nothing else, literally. Why can't we view marriage in this way, as well? Don't get me wrong here, if someone is in physical and/or mental harm with their spouse, by all means, that is a marriage to escape. I've been there, and I still fought for that abusive marriage, until a crucial & defining moment took place to where I felt peace in leaving. And now I've found an amazing, God-fearing man who lights up my life, and no matter how bad things may get between us, or how "not in love" we may feel, or how crazy we may make each other, we would never even remotely consider divorce. Fighting for your marriage takes incredible strength and devotion. Fight for your marriage! Fight for your spouse! And realize that with your partner that you chose for all the right reasons, you can work through anything that crosses your path together. This is when marriage solidifies and matures and grows and develops and blossoms. Knowing that you will never give up on each other, you will never walk out, and you will always choose to stay, is the most powerful choice that you can make. Marriage is the most important relationship in life, and it needs to be held on a pedestal. Part of living a Mindful Life is knowing that marriage is not perfect, and it never will be, but, it can feel pretty darn close to perfection when you learn to simply choose love, even when you don't feel it.


Happy 7 Years to us, and here is to the rest of our life together!

Friday, March 30, 2018

Launching My Corner

Hi! Hello! Welcome to my highly anticipated (for myself), long overdue, creative & mental outlet corner! I’m so excited to finally get this thing going, and so appreciative that YOU found your way here to follow my journey. From my blog, you can expect to read about personal struggles, accomplishments, parenting, testimonies, relationships, my past, encouragement & support, processing emotions & situations, my favorite things, food, and everything in between, and where life takes us!

For those that do not know me on a personal level, I’ll take a minute to introduce myself 😊 My name is Kailah... don’t let the spelling throw you off; it’s pronounced as Kayla! I have been married for almost 7 years to my incredible blessing of a husband, Taylor, and together we have 3 precious girls, Eliza, Evelynn, and Everley, and 3 beloved angel babies in Heaven that we lost to miscarriage. Taylor & I have had quite the 7 years of marriage, and we are so excited to see what our future holds in the years to come!

I’m thrilled to begin sharing my story with you, and hope to hear from you if something helped you or spoke to you as this blogging journey embarks!